Seven Tips to Help Improve Your Self Image and Mental Health

Do you love yourself or just “like” yourself?

Do you see the glass of life as half empty or half full?

Are you a “Debbie Downer” about life or a “Pollyanna” ?

Have you allowed your poor life decisions to define who you are?

A woman’s poor self image can certainly affect her mental health through years of intentional or unintentional abuse. Our mind and our words are powerful tools. It’s easy to believe what you hear and allow it to take root. People we are close to in work or relationships could unknowingly compound on a person’s already poor self image and even though it “seemed” harmless at the time, you have just poked another hole into their already low self esteem.

What Are Some Signs of Having a Low Self Image or Poor Self Esteem?

People pleasing – A constant need for helping others to the point of convincing yourself that they will become your best friend.

Little to no boundaries – People walk all over you because you allow it and have not established boundaries with them. This is also a need to keep friends.

Constantly comparing yourself to others -The need to look successful around others.

Little to no control over your life – You seem to have no confidence in yourself.

Negativity – You think and talk negatively and have no positive spin on life.

If you have noticed anyone showing signs like these, more than likely they have taken on these characteristics as a defense mechanism from past experiences.

Unkind words can hurt like a knife

If you are someone who has been victim to bullying, unkindness and hurt you are probably thinking how you can possibly love yourself when it seems like no one else gives you the respect you are seeking. We are all on a journey. Everyone’s journey is different. Self image and loving yourself is how you react and respond to what is put in front of you. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Remember that.

Here is a passage about a woman and what she has experienced on her journey in life. This is what she sees in the mirror. . .

I have been on a journey for (fill in the blank) years with this woman…

I have allowed her to be broken.

I have allowed others to treat her disrespectfully.

I’ve seen her fall and STAND BACK UP SEVERAL TIMES and be a light for the world, and love others despite all of it.

She stood paralyzed by fear while she fought battles in her mind, heart, and soul.

This woman has made many bad decisions as a partner, a mother, a daughter, a sister and as a friend.

She has trusted and believed in people who didn’t believe in her.

She has a smart mouth, a stubborn streak.

She has pain, she has scars.

Some people love this woman, some like her, and some don’t care for her at all…

She has done good in her life, and she has done not so good in her life.

Every mistake, failure, trial, disappointment, betrayal, success, joy, and achievement has made her into who she is today.

She’s not perfect.

She is unstoppable, gracefully broken, but beautifully standing.

…and she will never stop learning, growing or moving forward…

SHE is me …❤️SHE is me and I am HER !!!~Anonymous

Do these words resonate with you?

Look in the mirror. What do you see? How would you describe yourself?

When you look in the mirror do you see someone who is constantly criticizing herself, a failure and a constant disappointment? Or do you see yourself as the passage describes. . .unstoppable and beautifully standing?


I don’t want to bombard you with 20 ways to have a great self image. . only 7! Of course there are more, however these are a great start for you!

1. Don’t compare yourself to others. You will always be disappointed. Everyone has their own unique qualities so roll with yours! That’s what makes you, YOU!

2. Make mistakes. No one is perfect so get used to it. We all make mistakes, just don’t beat yourself up over them.

3. Trust yourself. Challenge yourself to do something you thought you couldn’t do. Start small. Baby steps.

4. Put yourself first. If you don’t, someone else will. They will use you. Take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally.

5. Be bold around others. Boldness in public will give you confidence in yourself. It will get easier and easier each time you do it.

6. Be realistic with your expectations of yourself. The saying goes that most people are harder on themselves than anyone else. You know what you are capable of. Don’t put the bar too high for an epic fail.

7. Don’t replay mistakes. If you replay your past failures, this will only lead to negative thoughts about yourself.

So remember, you are special and your words are powerful. Learn to love yourself!

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14

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